Doing what you can, instead of what you cannot.

The birds still fly, the bees still buzz and the breeze still blows. A million things could be happening but these things still remain true across the board. A bird does not stop flying because it’s nest was destroyed. The bee does not stop buzzing and pollinating because it hasn’t found a flower in twenty minutes and the breeze continues to blow whether the the sun is shining and or the clouds are heavy. A good reminder that just like our troubles in life can take ahold of our present, we can also be like the birds, bees, and breeze; continuing on our regular scheduled path even in times of turmoil.

The key would be to continue doing the things you know you MUST do in order to remain normal, safe and content. The simple stability we can achieve through routine tasks is what keeps us from being in a place that we have zero control over. The places we fall victim to when we lose our ability to fly, buzz and blow a gentle breeze.

When we forget these simple, everyday tasks we are able to control, and then lose control of things we were never in complete control of anyways, suddenly the entire world seems to feel out of reach. Being able to draw the line in the sand between what we can and cannot do is important and remember to always put effort into those things we can do.

The truth is, the more we can do and do well, the more strength and courage we have to take on those things we “can’t” do.

Let’s say you have ALWAYS been an amazing organizer, you are able to systematically do any task in a neat and simple way. Suddenly, you have nothing more to organize.. everything around you is neat and things suddenly seem out of control for you. Well, take that thing you can do (organize) and find a way to organize what you cannot do.

What can’t you do? What is something that is making you unhappy, that you simply cannot do anything to change or control it? Organize it! Find a way to systematically change the task into something you can do. Because you know you CAN organize, so truthfully speaking you CAN organize what you can’t do. Get it?

Suddenly, those things you can’t do, get easier because by applying what you know to a new and more difficult situation, you have taken the first steps in learning how to add those cannot’s to your can’t list.

Say you have always been a great communicator, and something has come up where you have to do something with NO help, no one to discuss your issues or concerns or ideas with, suddenly communicating is out of the question! So you panic, who to turn to? Well, here is a great idea: communicate your own ideas on paper, or in your mind? Think of what someone you know or have known in the past would say or take your own advice for once!

Another example for you, you have always been a fitness guru, someone who enjoys working out. Fitness is your practice and what you CAN do. Something has come up that you CAN’T do.. it is so out of your realm and reach that you are feeling out of control. Apply the same exact system you do to work out, your discipline and how you motivate yourself to attack your new problem.

Depression has a funny way of slipping through the cracks of what we know and taking control of the things we have already mastered. When we lose our ability to always be on top of things we should never lose our simpler truths that keep us in check every other day.

Losing grasp on who we are intrinsically, is the real way we lose the grasp on who we could be potentially. Also, our truest abilities are our ticket to overcoming depression all together. Every single human on the face of this earth is born with a light inside, something that keeps them going and it is what they do with that light that determines who and what they will be and be able to do.

When we are out of control we sometimes assume we have no way to gain a foothold because we are not used to the lack of knowledge of the subject. So, instead of giving up or losing our mind, let’s do what we CAN instead of what we can’t.

Welcome 2020!

Wow, 2020! Here we are. As you approach we want to greet you with welcome arms. The past few years have been leading us to you, 2020. We are open, and willing to try our absolute best to embrace you. Whatever you may hold we know it is for our best purpose and highest power.

2020 is our year to engage our own selves and our abilities to take it to the next level. We are full of truth and wisdom and know the difference between what we are able to achieve and what no longer serves our purpose.

When you call on us to change, or to adjust we will do so with strength and good will. We will not fail you or not show up to meet you. Our future and our goals all depend on our willingness to flow and move in sync with you.

Holding onto anything that has not served us in the past is leaving with 2019. We have a new outlook and expression towards life. The energy that we possess now is full, strong, and able.

We look to 2020 as a spring board into our destiny. We are shifting ways and making room for the future. Let’s shine this 2020 and bring ourselves and destinies to the next realm waiting for us!

2 Mile Run: The Importance of Rest

Today I went on my first long distance run in a long time. I was sweaty, hot and encouraged. The cool air and the beautiful river beside me felt fresh. When I was ready to give up, I took a rest and then had the energy to keep pushing. I love how a couple minutes of rest can reset your entire outlook.

Instead of whining and saying no, just take a break. That is the ONLY thing you need to do when you start working out. Just take a break. The rest will give you time to regain a balance on your emotions and the burn in your limbs. Even if your break is a day, or a few hours or a few days, the best part about starting a more healthy and fit lifestyle is that it is on your terms!

There is no right way to begin being healthy. Any walk, lap or sit up will be one more than you had done previously. The only difference between pushing yourself to your absolute limits and just adding exercises here and there is the time in which you will see external results. Those external results come from extreme self-discipline either very quickly and strong-willed or more of a slow pace that builds over the years.

So, while I was running today, I decided I didn’t HAVE to. I could stop at any time and that alone gave me back my control. No, I do not have to work out. I do not have to run this last block, this last couple of feet. But I am in control of that and I get to decide where I want to push my body. The pain is of my choosing and that 1 or 2 minutes of rest in between some very difficult internal battles, is all I needed to recognize that I am in control here. Nothing else but me.

Pain is a very interesting thing, because even when the pain is good, it still hurts on some level. That hurt is scary but it is not impossible. The best part is you get to decide when to experience that pain, when you don’t want to and also you get to decide what that pain means to you. Does it mean, you have control? Does it mean you are in charge of this body and this beauty with in? Yes.